August 18, 2013 was the date and I can remember it so clearly. This year has made two years of being married to my husband and three years of knowing each other. Doesn’t sound like much does it? Honestly sometimes I don’t think it sounds like much but other times I feel like I have known Silas my entire life and that we are an old married couple.
However, whether the time has been short or long it doesn’t change the fact of how much has happened in the past three years. We have had ups and downs like most couples but the good always outweighs the bad.
People around us often anticipate what our marriage is like but honestly they have no idea. I have been anticipated to be a lazy housewife that expects her husband to cater to her every need, ha! Funny is not the word for that. My husband has been anticipated to be controlling and bossy and carefree to my needs, again I say ha!
People amuse me. These are just prime examples of the things no one warns you about BEFORE marriage. I came into this marriage not knowing that I would quickly turn into the bad guy and not knowing that my husband and I would both be judged harshly by everyone that surrounds us. No one talks about this stuff, it’s like a secret code or something.
No marriage is perfect however no marriage is what you may think it is. After telling you about what people think of our marriage now let me tell you the truth:
Silas and I are best friends and we tell each other everything and I do mean everything. We get angry at each other and sometimes we yell (I do most of the yelling) and sometimes we both go somewhere alone to cry but at the end of the day we always make up and we never go to bed upset and if we do my husband doesn’t sleep long because I wake him up to talk and cuddle and to make it better.
Our chores are split evenly no matter where we are staying and we take care of each other which means we pick up after each other and such.
We both have sick parents and sometimes we have to spend nearly a month apart to take care of our parents due to the fact that we are from different counties in Kentucky. Our parents are very important to us.
Coming into this marriage we both had friends, Silas had more friends than I did but we still had to separate ourselves. Some of his friends didn’t like me and some just didn’t want they’re buddy to be married and some accepted me and actually became friends with me to. Silas and I both had to let people go so that we could make our marriage work.
Our relationship is not just a relationship it’s a friendship, partnership and a gift from God.
We entered our marriage both as sinners but a year later both gave our hearts to God. Our marriage became less stressful because we started letting God take control and letting God work our lives out.
Still yet people wanted to hurt us and ruin what God has put together but it didn’t work. We really love each other and God really has blessed us and I know he has a plan for us both.
Don’t let people make you think marriage is easy sailing and don’t let them make you think it’s a bad thing. Marriage truly is a beautiful thing if you give it to God.
Sometimes you will encounter people and situations where you have to stand up and speak your peace and then sometimes you have to bite your tongue and let go and let God.
I’ve learned a lot about love since I met Silas. I’ve learned that it does exist and that it is possible for everyone to be loved but not just by a man or woman but also by God.
If God has taken the time to bless you with a person of your own to comfort you, befriend you, love you and share your life with then that is one of the many examples that he loves you.
While Satan has came in many forms and tried to ruin our marriage and our faith in God, he has failed.
Remember, you are marrying one person, not the world. So don’t let other people break you or your marriage.
Even in the bad times my husband and I always pray together. We make sure we make time everyday and night to devote ourselves and our marriage to God.
You can’t do this alone, and if you manage to its gonna be tough. Instead do it with God. Devote your love for one another to God and let him work things out, let him direct your path.
So what’s the truth about marriage? The truth is it needs God, love, trust and faith in each other. While the world may try to ruin it for you remember these verses: “But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”- Mark 10:6-9 KJV
Go and be in peace and love one another, do not let the worldly things of this world burden you. For what God has created cannot be broken as long as he is in the midst, amen!